I turned 39 a pair months in the past, and I’ll admit—my birthday hit otherwise this yr. Not in an “I’m so afraid of turning 40” form of means. Fortunately, I’ve sufficient lovely, horny, wonderful buddies of their 40s to get me enthusiastic about this subsequent decade. It was extra of a realization that I solely have one yr left to take advantage of my 30s.Â
The final 9 years have been so full. We grew our household, my enterprise has grown exponentially, and so most of the issues I dreamed about in my 20s have grow to be actual. But it surely’s flown by, and this birthday made me sit up and think about if there’s something that I wish to do earlier than I say goodbye to this decade.
One of many nice issues about running a blog is that your weblog turns into a kind of private scrapbook, capturing totally different moments of your life. As I thought of all this, I remembered that again once I turned 30, I wrote a weblog submit referred to as “10 Issues I Wish to Do In My 30s.” It made me interested by which of them I’d completed and which of them had been nonetheless on my record. And did I really nonetheless need to do all of them? So, right this moment I’m revisiting that submit with you guys. Watch the video beneath as I stroll you thru what I actually wish to do throughout this remaining yr of my 30s. Spoiler: it’s going to be a really full 11 months.
Right here’s a recap of the objectives on my unique 30s Bucket Listing, in addition to some new ones I’m prioritizing this yr:
Go Browsing
I’ve surfed a number of instances in my 30s! I’m positively not good at it, however I’ve gone out in Costa Rica and in Malibu, and it’s one thing I wish to do extra of sooner or later. An enormous a part of why I wished to surf was my love for the ocean and surf tradition. (That is actually what impressed us to purchase our property in Malibu in 2020.) It’s been so unbelievable to have a spot to go the place we are able to spend extra time by the water and be immersed within the laid-back surf neighborhood there, so that is positively a objective that’s in movement in my life.
Grasp Bread Baking
You guys understand how a lot I like to bake, however I nonetheless haven’t actually devoted myself to baking my very own bread. And I feel I’m okay with that. I’ve realized that for me, baking bread actually symbolizes an act of slowing down and embracing life’s easy pleasures. However I’ll be sincere—I get simply as a lot pleasure out of going to the farmer’s market and shopping for a extremely good loaf of sourdough.
Journey to Japan
That is actually humorous as a result of I fully forgot this was on my record—however I’ve really began planning a visit to Japan for this fall! For me, this can be a reminder that if you write down your objectives, you’re setting them in movement even with out realizing it. I can not wait to expertise the tradition and the meals in Japan, and I’m going to be doing a little sourcing for Japanese artisans and makers for Casa Zuma.
Study to Sit Up Straight
It feels actually random that I wrote this one, however I do suppose that my posture has improved a LOT, and I really get feedback on my nice posture fairly ceaselessly. Right here’s a visualization that has actually helped me: Image a string operating by your heart, all through the highest of your head after which pulling you UP towards the sky. It really works, proper?
Embrace the Weekend
This one is actually about not working across the clock—which could be exhausting if you personal your personal enterprise. I’ve been engaged on being absolutely current with my household and buddies once I’m not working. However I’ve additionally realized that this can be a steadiness that’s all the time altering. There are seasons the place I’m extra targeted on work, and I discover a lot pleasure in creating and rising my enterprise. After which there are seasons the place I can let up just a little and unplug extra usually. I don’t suppose this can be a objective that I’ll ever examine off my record, however I’m all the time working to seek out that steadiness and being intentional about creating area to unplug, decelerate, and simply be current.
Stay in Europe for at Least 6 Months
I’d nonetheless like to do that—but it surely’s not going to occur earlier than I flip 40. And that’s okay. What I wish to do is spend a couple of weeks in Europe subsequent summer time exploring a brand new place with our household. Perhaps that’s how I’ll rejoice my fortieth?Â
Rediscover Poetry
That is one which I’d forgotten about, but it surely positively nonetheless resonates. One thing I’ve been excited about recently is incorporating extra of a bedtime ritual that helps me replicate on the day as a substitute of simply watching a present till I go to sleep. I’ve began protecting a guide of poetry by my mattress, studying one poem an evening, after which taking 5 minutes to jot down any ideas from the day that I wish to keep in mind.
Personal Solely Attractive Lingerie
TMI alert: ever since Covid, I don’t really put on lingerie in any respect. Perhaps a bralette if it’s completely vital, however that’s it. So this one’s a moot level.
Study to Do a Headstand
This looks like a lot of effort proper now, and I feel I’m completely okay with letting it go.
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Okay, in order that was my previous record… on to my new objectives! Once I sat down and thought of what I would like this yr to seem like, I spotted it was much less about DOING and extra about BEING. Which displays the ways in which I’ve personally advanced since I wrote that first submit 9 years in the past. I wish to be so intentional with my time and who I’m turning into as I enter this subsequent decade of my life, and these milestone birthdays generally is a good time to zoom out and see if the way in which we’re spending our time is aligned with our values.Â
So, right here’s what bought added to my record:
Create Area in My Schedule for the Initiatives I’m Passionate About
Launching Casa Zuma on the finish of final yr opened up such an thrilling new side of my profession, and I found that I’m actually enthusiastic about this a part of the enterprise. However, like so lots of you guys, an enormous problem for me is discovering sufficient hours within the day to do all the pieces that I wish to do. So, I wish to get very disciplined about blocking my time all through the week to be extra targeted and environment friendly with my time, in order that I can open up area for all of the various things I wish to work on.
Have Extra Enjoyable With My Children
For 3 years in a row, certainly one of my New 12 months’s intentions has been to “have extra enjoyable.” (Sure, I do know that claims one thing about me, lol.) I are likely to get very targeted on the duty at hand, which might lead me to be just a little too severe at instances.
A significant worth for me is creating extra enjoyable experiences and reminiscences with our household. My youngsters are eight and ten, and these are the most enjoyable ages—I don’t wish to miss a single minute of it. Over the subsequent a number of months, I wish to be so intentional about being extra spontaneous and doing enjoyable issues collectively. Mountain climbing, street journeys, making artwork collectively, going to new eating places—all these easy issues that assist us get away of the rut of our day-to-day schedule.Â
Carve Out a Profession That’s All My Personal
One factor I’m studying: the older you get, the much less you care about what others consider you. (Thank goodness!) As I shut out my 30s, I wish to wholeheartedly embrace the components of my profession that really feel genuine to me, and that carry me probably the most pleasure.
One of many difficult issues about being a content material creator is that, due to social media, it may be tempting to do issues simply because everybody else is, or as a result of an algorithm prioritizes sure forms of content material. And though these methods could be rewarded within the short-term, my precedence is to completely present up with my complete coronary heart, creating content material that serves you guys and that I’m authentically excited to share as a result of I imagine it’s really significant.
Perceive and Align With My Cycle
In case you’re not but conversant in the idea of cycle syncing, this might sound random, however let me clarify. The final thought is: as a substitute of doing the identical issues all through the month, you tailor your behaviors to the present section of your menstrual cycle. Cycle syncing may apply to how you’re employed out, the meals you eat at totally different instances of the month, or how you propose your workday.
This matter is high of thoughts for me proper now, as a result of I’m having a interval for the primary time in years. Between having infants, breastfeeding, and being on contraception, I haven’t had an everyday cycle in over a decade. So now that it’s again, I’m excited to dig extra into this matter and take note of how my hormones are affecting my power, my productiveness, psychological readability.
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Okay, let’s get this social gathering began! Don’t miss my Youtube episode the place we chat about all of them, and I’ll do my finest to share updates all year long on how every of those goes.