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Episode #221: Discovering Pleasure within the Little Issues

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Who doesn’t wish to convey extra pleasure of their lives? This week, we’re speaking about all of the little issues in life that convey us a lot pleasure. Plus, we’re doing our guide report on The Useless Romantics by Ashley Poston.

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Present Notes:

Nova’s Lady Scout Cookies

Issues we discover pleasure in:




Collections: Antiques and artwork






Little Luxuries: getting lashes refilled, portray nails, and shopping for a brand new face cream

Adjusting your expectations so you possibly can really love one thing

Charge The Useless Romantics by Ashley Poston between 1-5 ghost emojis

Elsie – 4.5

Emma – 4.5

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Episode 221 Transcript:

Elsie:  You’re listening to the gorgeous mess podcast, your cozy consolation hear,. Who doesn’t need somewhat bit extra pleasure of their lives? This week we’re speaking in regards to the little issues in our life that convey us a lot pleasure. Plus, we’re doing a guide report on The Useless Romantics by Ashley Poston. Okay, so ought to we begin off with the guide report or with the issues that convey us pleasure?

Emma:  Oh, let’s do issues that convey us pleasure.

Elsie:  Okay. Let’s do it. I’m, like, so scared that we put all the identical issues. What number of did you set up? I put 5.

Emma:  I put 5. 

Elsie:  Nice. Okay, we’ll travel. 

Emma:  Now I’m very curious to see in the event that they’re all the identical issues. Truthfully, I might adore it. In the event that they’re all 5 the identical. That’d be loopy in a method.

Elsie:  They’re gonna be. Apart from one or two. Give me your first one. Okay.

Emma:  My first one is studying. Is that in your record too? Is that in your bingo card?

Elsie:  Yeah, duh it’s. Okay. Go forward.

Emma:  Shock, shock. We love studying. I feel I talked about this somewhat bit within the final episode. However studying to me is simply such a contented place in life. I really like having a guide that I’m like, trying ahead to choosing it again up. I’m like speeding via, , folding laundry or no matter silly process I’ve in order that I can get again to my guide. I do hearken to audiobooks. I do know you’re going to speak about audiobooks, however I are typically extra of a guide reader. And I’m contemplating getting an e-reader once more. I had one up to now. I had a Kindle and it simply wasn’t actually my factor. I like having the pages to show. 

Elsie:  Why are you contemplating it then? 

Emma:  So I’m contemplating it, in order our listeners know, I’m pregnant. I’m going to have a child this summer season. My due dates late June. And I’m already planning like what books to love, have in that period, I’m going to do plenty of attractive fairy books that creator I imagine it’s Sara Mase wish to say. So I’m trying ahead to a maternity go away. And I really like infants. And I really like breastfeeding. I really like breastfeeding my son. Additionally, it’s a tough time I’m a sleeper. I wish to sleep seven to eight hours an evening. And also you undoubtedly don’t get to sleep that a lot when you could have a new child. And it’s arduous. It’s, , a troublesome time the place you’re making an attempt to maintain your angle up. However you’re like, man, I want I may sleep extra.  So I’m like planning a guide that I can at the least be trying ahead to studying whereas I’m breastfeeding at night time or no matter I’m doing, , getting up with the child. And generally you’re not studying however there are lengthy stretches the place they’re simply consuming and also you’re feeding them with a bottle or your boob or no matter. And also you’re simply sitting there. So having one thing to sit up for studying at 4am. Yeah, is form of a excessive bar. So I’m actually simply wanting like, what I might contemplate considerably junk meals reads, and the attractive fairy books actually do it for me as a result of they’re for me, extremely addictive. And this isn’t me dissing them by the way in which. That is me saying how fantastic I really like them as a result of they’re what I’m saving for my maternity go away. 

Elsie:  Did you end the primary collection? 

Emma:  No, I haven’t completed it as a result of I don’t wish to be a reader who like speeds via all one creator. I wish to form of tempo them out. Particularly if I discover like a trilogy that I’m actually into. I actually like form of spacing it out as a result of then I’m like, trying ahead to it. However I feel I’m going to hurry via plenty of them in the course of the maternity leaves. In order that’s why I’m contemplating an e-reader too, since you do plenty of issues one handed when you could have a child since you’re holding the child so much. So that you eat your meals one handed, you be taught to do plenty of issues one handed, and holding large books one handed is admittedly arduous, such as you drop them so much. So I’m like possibly I ought to simply get an e-reader though I form of have this sense that I gained’t wish to maintain it after that part of life. Like I’ll most likely wish to return to books as a result of I identical to having them on my shelf. I like turning the pages. I identical to it. And , only for enjoyable, readings for enjoyable. So I’m like, why not do the factor I like so I nearly like wish to identical to borrow somebody’s e-reader for six months. 

Elsie:  Give it to me whenever you’re executed as a result of I need one for the youngsters. 

Emma:  Okay, possibly I’ll try this then as a result of I don’t wish to purchase one and solely use it for six months. It makes me really feel so wasteful. However I additionally was like, are you able to lease an e-reader? I don’t suppose so. So anyway, that is my dumb factor. However I really like studying a lot. So I’m like planning what I’m going to learn throughout this barely arduous season.

Elsie:  I feel that’s actually good to provide your self treats. 

Emma:  Yeah, and to me studying is unquestionably a deal with. And I like all types of various genres. However there are some that really feel extra addictive to me than others. I undoubtedly learn plenty of romance, not simply fantasy romance. I like historic romance. I like Trendy Romance. To me that’s like a really like enjoyable learn. Like if I’m somewhat bit unhappy or it’s wintertime. I’m like, give me that romance. Yeah, I like all types of issues. I really like thrillers, clearly.  I additionally like nonfiction. I’m fairly eclectic in my studying. And I additionally like that you simply and I are typically barely totally different on our fiction reads.

Elsie:  You all the time say that.

Emma:  You want somewhat extra basic fiction than I do. I’m somewhat extra style than you might be as a result of  you’re not in opposition to fantasy however it’s not like a giant factor for you essentially and I’m like dragons signal me up.

Elsie:  I’m obsessive about fantasy however I’m like arduous to please. I’m like simply disenchanted by it which isn’t good. 

Emma:  And you want extra moody issues, somewhat bit extra inventive.

Elsie:  That’s true I wish to cry. 

Emma:  You wish to cry. I don’t wish to cry very a lot. I wish to be somewhat bit spooked. Such as you scare me, I like that. However I don’t actually wish to cry an excessive amount of. I additionally do cry although, throughout romance so much, which could be very humorous, however I do. So I feel I’m a straightforward cry. And so I’m like, I don’t need this unhappy. I don’t wish to cry as a result of I’m unhappy. I wish to cry as a result of like they lastly received collectively, or , one thing joyful. I like a contented cry, I assume. Anyway, studying is unquestionably a kind of little joys in life. And I additionally discover plenty of pleasure being in locations which have a lot of books. So bookstores, libraries, and I really like to purchase books and take a look at books, however I additionally identical to the sensation of being round plenty of books. I feel it’s a really peaceable factor. And I feel a part of it’s rising up whenever you go to public faculties, actually any establishment kind factor like that, it might be a boarding college, or no matter, I went to public faculties. There’s plenty of instances the place you’re like, for those who’re the kind of one that’s somewhat bit introverted, and likes to be alone, and likes like low audio environments, there’s generally you don’t get a alternative, proper? Such as you’re simply within the cafeteria, and it’s loud, or like, sure lecturers would love play music throughout take a look at as a result of it does assist different college students. However for me, it all the time form of bothered me. So for me, being within the library was like, a very nice place to be. Even when I wasn’t there to take a look at a guide. I simply needed to be in there.

Elsie:  Emma has all the time been this fashion. Once we had our retailer, she like hated it that I performed music and it’s like, you form of need to.

Emma:  I don’t hate music however I identical to plenty of peace and quiet. I’m a really like searching for peace always individual. 

Elsie:  It is best to get a kind of little grandma water fountains. 

Emma:  I used to have one, like in center college in my room, the little waterphone. Yeah. Anyway, yeah. So studying. studying is unquestionably somewhat pleasure for me.

Elsie:  I adore it. Okay, I’ll do audiobooks since we’re on the topic already. So I really like studying paper books. However audio books are like very sensible for me on this time of life. I’ll let you know all of the instances I learn them as a result of folks all the time ask me like, how do you learn so many books? And I learn them after I’m driving. After I’m ready for child, , properly, that may choose ready, ready, ready. Anytime I’m cleansing. And anytime I’m doing any form of work aside from writing. I can’t clearly, do it after I’m writing. Yeah, however another like after I’m doing images or another work? I can deal with the audiobook. So yeah, that’s just about all day day-after-day. And even generally at night time earlier than mattress. I listened to them. Prefer it’s identical to, I adore it. So yeah, I feel that the cool factor about audiobooks is you possibly can learn actually, actually quick. Even if in case you have a busy life. That’s like energetic, , taking walks anyway, all of it. Oh, yeah, portray, all of the issues just about every little thing aside from writing or I’m enjoying with my youngsters. My youngsters like hate my books. And so they don’t prefer it after I even have my headphones in. And in order that’s like somewhat little bit of an issue. So I both have to cover it from them however it’s okay you shouldn’t hearken to them 24 hours a day. However yeah, I really like the artwork of audiobooks. Looks like plenty of the individuals who learn audiobooks are actors. It’s like typically they’re like a display screen actor, a Broadway actor. It’s identical to every kind of cool folks. Anyway, I do wish to learn a wide selection of books, like what Emma was saying, possibly like somewhat bit extra literary fiction, however just about all the identical stuff. I don’t wish to learn plenty of romance books in a row. Suppose I wish to learn one each every now and then, like one a month and similar with nonfiction. I don’t wish to learn nonfiction books in a row as a result of , there it will possibly all mix collectively. It already form of does. Prefer it’s arduous to recall whenever you consider like a self assist idea, which guide it got here from whenever you learn, , like a bunch of them.

Emma:  Yeah, generally like a biography or an autobiography too, which is a distinct type of nonfiction. However I really feel like I get into kicks the place I’m, like, form of into studying like Audrey Hepburn’s biography, or , no matter. I identical to get into these little boats for awhile.

Elsie:  Yeah, no, I like that, superstar memoirs. So superstar memoirs, there’s solely normally like a couple of, like, wonderful ones every year, however there’s all the time at the least one or two wonderful ones each single yr. In order that’s enjoyable. However yeah, anyway, love audiobooks. It’s undoubtedly nonetheless counts as studying. It is sort of a solution to if you wish to identical to get into studying with a low barrier of entry. Such as you don’t have to take a seat. For me if I needed to sit and browse a guide each time I wouldn’t be capable to learn very a lot as a result of I’m not touring very a lot in my life proper now. And identical to sitting down studying a guide, is it all the time interesting to me. However yeah, like listening to at least one it’s prefer it’s tremendous interesting. 

Emma:  Sitting down and studying is an entire totally different, you want the usage of your arms greater than probably except you could have some form of system. So it’s simply totally different. Whereas you could be doing issues when you’re listening to an audio guide. So that you could be folding laundry, doing dishes, no matter.

Elsie:  And I felt like my kids are already due to the Yoto gamers. They’re already like, they’ve an appreciation for just like the expertise within the manufacturing of an audiobook as a result of I began to learn Harry Potter to them. And so they, Emma is aware of the story, they have been like, Mama, you’re not doing sufficient voices. Like Mama, you’re studying so boring. And I assumed I used to be doing a superb job. I used to be making an attempt.

Emma:  She received booed off the stage. 

Elsie:  After which we began studying the Jim Dale manufacturing that like, , and it’s an entire factor. And so they have been like, immediately, sure, instantly sure. So I simply sit there with the guide in my heads with my cellphone out. And we hearken to it collectively. And it’s form of like studying, however it’s form of, I assume it’s simpler, they usually’re having fun with it extra. It’s extra entertaining for them. However yeah, it’s undoubtedly like a expertise that individuals have. 

Emma:  Children could be brutally sincere. No, I’m not interested by you doing it. Okay. Wow. That’s humorous.

Elsie:  Okay, what’s your subsequent?

Emma:  My subsequent one is desserts. 

Elsie:  Oh okay. Say every little thing.

Emma:  Okay, so let me begin with this. , we love a disclaimer, I don’t have something to say about well being, weight, none of that. I’m not interested by speaking about that proper now. I feel that meals can get so wrapped up in that, and I get that and it’s an necessary dialog. That’s not what I’m speaking about proper now. 

Elsie:  Yeah. Or like ever on this podcast. 

Emma:  Yeah, I’ve. I’ve nothing good to say don’t hearken to me on any of that. I don’t know I’m studying too, anyway. So let me begin by saying one factor that our nice grandma Lula, who lived to be like 102 or 103, she was mainly within the blue zone. She figured it out. My mother stated that piece of recommendation. Nice Grandma Lula had was she was like, I’m all the time trying ahead to my subsequent meal. And that was like one in every of her secrets and techniques to love an extended, joyful life was to all the time be trying ahead to your subsequent meal. I feel that recommendation is like, so easy and so good. And as somebody who loves consuming, I do know, some folks don’t care about consuming, that’s completely cool. However I really like consuming. I additionally love cooking. And I simply have sure meals I really like that I get enthusiastic about that I take into consideration and for me, like, each time I received my large tattoos the whole time, I used to be fascinated by what I used to be going to eat later. As a result of it’s like my solution to like, get via one thing troublesome. I can assure this summer season after I ship our son, I will probably be fascinated by what I can eat later or the subsequent day, as a result of it’s only a solution to get via what could be form of a troublesome second for me. So I utterly perceive my nice grandmother Lula being like, a secret to a contented life is is considering your subsequent meal and looking out ahead to your subsequent meal. So for me, I’m typically fascinated by like, desserts or little treats that I wish to have later. And naturally, I don’t do that each single day. I don’t have time to do it each single day. However I’ve plenty of like little issues which can be like my little treats and issues round city or the opposite day I received like actually fixated on getting a bagel from Panera, however then they have been all out of the blueberry and that was a giant drawback for me. As a result of I used to be simply actually in search of and plenty of instances they’re actually easy factor solely. 

Elsie:  I solely get the cinnamon one. 

Emma:  Too crunchy for me. Yeah, generally I’m within the temper for the cheese one, however not some this time I actually was wanting the blueberry with some cream cheese frosting or not frosting simply cream cheese. I imply, it’s mainly frosting. However yeah, and yeah, I’m a giant fan of I’ve talked about this earlier than, however I really like Andy’s Frozen Custard which is form of a regional factor however it’s undoubtedly a Springfield factor.

Elsie:  My youngsters name it lovely, attractive spinning ice cream cone.

Emma:  Oscar all the time notices the ice cream cone too and yeah, desserts and simply little treats is a factor for me that I’ll plan and I like trying ahead to it. Like if I do know that my husband and I are going to go on a date to love a sure restaurant, particularly if we’re touring. I’m one of many those that I’ll generally search for the menu forward of time as a result of it’s not that I’m essentially anxious or one thing I identical to trying ahead. I like including that to the expertise of consuming of like I’m trying ahead to having my favourite pasta on Friday for my birthday or no matter and I’m fascinated by it for like two weeks and it’s not like I’m not consuming different meals within the meantime that I’m having fun with I’m however I identical to the anticipation. 

Elsie:  That’s fantastic. I really like that.

Emma:  So so far as little joys that does it for me. And I additionally love generally having time to prepare dinner one thing enjoyable. Like for my birthday, one of many nights, Oscar stayed the night time along with her mother, he had a grandma night time. And the subsequent morning, I didn’t have Oscar time, as a result of he was over at grandma’s and I baked my very own birthday cake. Mother was like, you don’t need to bake your individual birthday cake. Inform me what cake you need. I’ll bake it, , our mother’s actually candy like that. And she or he’s an incredible baker. However I used to be like, Mother, really, I’d wish to bake it as a result of Oscar gained’t be dwelling. He likes to assist in the kitchen. And that’s actually candy. However that’s an entire totally different factor than after I get to take a seat and prepare dinner on my own and simply form of listened to my very own podcast that I wish to hearken to, or no matter, and make one thing that I’m enthusiastic about. Check out a brand new recipe that I haven’t tried earlier than or no matter. And I additionally favored the method of constructing meals generally fascinated by consuming it, which this was a chocolate cake, and I used to be trying ahead to consuming it.

Elsie:  Oh, that was cute. I really like that. It’s an ideal little pleasure in life.

Emma:  I feel so. 

Elsie:  My subsequent one is walks. Did you set walks? 

Emma:  Sure. 

Elsie:  Yeah, I wager you probably did. Okay, so the factor I really like about walks is clearly prefer it’s good getting recent air. It’s good getting train. You may hearken to your audiobook. Yeah, get somewhat daylight. However the factor I actually like is taking a look at everybody’s homes. I identical to to love look intimately. Particularly whenever you’re planning renovations, like final summer season, I keep in mind I used to be like strolling the whole neighborhood taking a look at what shade everybody’s porch was, as a result of it’s like not a factor you discover till you want have to do your individual porch. And there’s so many little issues like that like taking a look at all of the picket fences after we have been getting a picket fence and like, , so, yeah, walks is like one of many biggest issues in my life and possibly like, the most important improve. Once we moved from our McMansion in Tennessee to right here, there was form of lots of people that have been like, oh, your home is like not as clean mansion is sweet. Which is prefer it’s not as mansiony, however just like the distinction between a stroll the place all you get to take a look at is different McMansions and a stroll the place you get to take a look at like 100 historic properties, to me is prefer it’s not a con. It’s not even a contest like you possibly can’t exchange that. 

Emma:  I walked in your previous neighborhood and I’ve walked in your present neighborhood and by far your present neighborhood is a significantly better stroll.

Elsie:  Yeah, it’s magical. And I favored my McMansion too. So, no disgrace in direction of the McMansion life. It had its good issues for certain. However yeah, just like the walks. So yeah, I really like like, , simply I don’t know the bizarre stuff just like the mailboxes, seeing what flowers folks plant of their yard, identical to all of the little issues. After which sure, our neighborhood is an excessive Halloween neighborhood, which iskinda like 90% of my id.

Emma:  Shout out to everybody who does vacation decor on the skin of their home in order that us who’re on the market strolling can take pleasure in it, as a result of it’s fantastic. And I adore it. And if for those who don’t even adorn the within, and also you’re simply form of do within the outdoors on your neighbors. Thanks. I see you and I adore it. It makes me so joyful. 

Elsie:  I agree. Yeah, adore it.

Emma:  Yeah, walks was on my record to like strolling outdoors. And I additionally suppose we talked about this in a earlier episode, however I really like occurring a stroll with pals someday. I feel it’s a good time to catch up as a result of it’s like you may get your daylight and your steps and you might be possibly already going to go. And now you possibly can chat with a pal somewhat bit about what they’ve been as much as what life’s like for them. And generally that traces up with different folks’s schedules. Typically it doesn’t. It simply relies upon, however it’s good.

Elsie:  Okay, what’s your subsequent one?

Emma:  Okay, subsequent one is I’m gonna name it little luxuries. 

Elsie:  It sounds good. I don’t know what it means. 

Emma:  Properly, for me, my largest one might be getting my lashes executed. As soon as a month, I get my lashes refilled. I’m an lash extension gal. And I adore it. And I feel after I was first getting it executed years in the past, I might all the time travel about it like oh, ought to I actually spend cash on this? Am I simply being useless? Am I , having this appointment after I needs to be working? And , particularly as soon as I had my son I’m like, , I might get my appointment throughout daycare hours as a result of I can’t take him he could be so bored. He would destroy her room whereas we’re there, ? And yeah, and I’m like my son’s in daycare so I can get my lashes executed. Am I a horrible mom? Like generally these items undergo your thoughts and I feel I’ve actually settled on. No, that is nice. That is one in every of my little joys and I adore it. I really like getting my lashes executed. One in all my favourite options is my eyes. I’ve these blue eyes. My son has actually blue eyes too. I feel he may need received it from me. And I really like them. So I really feel like my lashes form of exhibit my eyes. extra. And I actually simply love laying down and shutting my eyes for an hour to an hour and a half and anyone else takes care of one thing for me. Yeah, it’s good. It’s such a luxurious. My lash gal is superior. Her identify is Brittany. We chat so much. However she additionally doesn’t care if you wish to like pop in an audio guide or no matter. She’s like do your factor and I adore it. So it’s issues like that. I additionally like to color my nails. I’m extra of a paint my nails at dwelling individual, simply because I have already got my lash appointment, I assume. However simply little luxuries like that. Shopping for a brand new face cream, simply letting your self purchase little issues which can be simply what I might name little luxuries. Like simply one thing enjoyable that makes you are feeling good. And for me, plenty of them are typically form of beauty. Nevertheless it’s actually not even actually a useless factor I don’t even suppose my husband cares more often than not. It’s identical to stuff I like I’m identical to, I’m into this. So right here we go. 

Elsie:  I undoubtedly take part in that too. Although it’s not on right here. I feel that life needs to be somewhat luxurious on a regular basis. A bit spa night time each night time. I adore it. No, I adore it. Skincare all of it. Great. Okay, my subsequent one is collections. So gathering issues is one thing that brings me plenty of pleasure. My principal collections proper now are antiques and artwork. So I’m form of simply engaged on my home proper now, I used to be fascinated by gathering poison rings too. Once we have been on our little journey I used to be discovering these little rings from the Victorian period the place you might like cover your poison. It’s mainly like a locket ring is what it appears to be like like. And there’s like 1000s of them on Etsy. And I don’t know, I assumed it was like, fairly magical. So I like stuff like that like bizarre stuff. And normally when it’s an vintage, I don’t purchase only one. I wish to have like a set of them. , like I wish to go deep into every of that vintage collections. Anyway, so far as artwork, I largely acquire classic artwork or vintage artwork. As a result of I’m largely into previous work and our entire downstairs, it’s largely classic. However I’ll say if you wish to rob me undergo the entire home and simply take the modern artwork, for those who simply need the cash, as a result of I feel it’s , it’s smaller, it’s price extra. It’s it’s simpler to hold for those who’re a robber. And yeah, I don’t know, vintage artwork you possibly can like you will discover it from a thrift retailer too. It’s such as you by no means actually know which of them are the costly ones you’ll by no means be capable to inform.

Emma:  Now I’m simply fascinated by what I might steal if I broke into your home. 

Elsie:  Positively take the modern artwork.

Emma:  I’m gonna want a truck. 

Elsie:  It’s humorous. I don’t actually have something to steal, I assume. However don’t take my platinum file. You is aware of the Platinum, it’s my every little thing.

Emma:  It’s cool man. Jeremy is cool for having one.

Elsie:  Avoid that. I have to anchor it to the wall. 

Emma:  Yeah. Might have an alarm. 

Elsie:  I have to put Residence Alone traps round it.

Emma:  You get shot with a Nerf gun. 

Elsie:  Okay, you want I confer with it as my platinum file. 

Emma:  I seen that.

Elsie:  So gathering artwork gathering antiques gathering, identical to I don’t know, I need my entire home to be like Knives Out the place the start of Knives Out when, you undergo the entire home. And also you’re like, there’s a narrative behind each nook of this dwelling. That’s how I need it to really feel. And clearly that takes years. And like heaps and many layers. So I’m dedicated to that imaginative and prescient. And I’m identical to, little extra each month, somewhat extra yearly. 

Emma:  I feel too. It actually jogs my memory of each our grandmother’s however particularly our grandmother Carina. She simply had a lot of bizarre issues in our home bizarre items of artwork and collectible figurines and issues from journeys she’d been on and he or she had very eclectic style. And we performed with all that stuff after we have been youngsters. And I simply have actually vivid reminiscences of a few of that stuff in our home. And our different grandma, the one who’s in pink home now, Norma, she additionally has collections of issues, a lot of porcelain collectible figurines very totally different vibe. She had a really, very totally different fashion than Carina.

Elsie:  She has a extremely good like, mild up Christmas Home.

Emma:  The Christmas home village. Yeah. And when Oscar and I might go over there across the Christmas season, he was instantly obsessed. I really feel prefer it’s like a child magnet. Sure collections like that, like at Christmas Village or no matter. 

Elsie:  My youngsters love going to her home. 

Emma:  Yeah. So I really feel prefer it offers like one thing, it’s only a enjoyable factor. And I imply, youngsters are extra upfront about it. However like adults wish to see the collections in your home too. Like I really like taking a look at somebody’s bookshelf and seeing all their like little brass collectible figurines or no matter it’s that they acquire seeing somebody’s artwork of their home. I really feel such as you discovered a lot about somebody whenever you see like all of the artwork they’ve collected of their home. It’s so enjoyable. So yeah, I really like that about you that you simply’re all the time gathering. 

Elsie:  It’s undoubtedly somewhat pleasure as a result of it’s Like, you possibly can add somewhat factor. And it’s not essentially costly. And it’s identical to and I’m all the time like having one thing to seek for, or like search for or just like the, , record for the flea markets and issues like that. Okay, what’s your subsequent one?

Emma:  Okay. That is my final one. This episode is about pleasure and little issues. And I don’t know if this actually be somewhat factor. So possibly I cheated. However I identical to, as I used to be fascinated by this episode, and like making my record, I simply felt like this form of match on there. So I’m simply going for it. So we have been speaking about this on our journey, really, it’s mainly, if I needed to sum it up, it’s like adjusting your expectations, in an effort to really love one thing. And for me, I’ve actually been on this little journey the previous couple of months, like three, 4 months with it about parenting, as a result of I feel that, like all people does this with totally different arenas. So let me choose a distinct factor. So like, plenty of instances, folks suppose as quickly as I get my dream job, I’ll be joyful, fortunately ever after. As quickly as I get married, I’ll be joyful, fortunately ever after. And for me, I feel I did form of have this like, as quickly as I’m a mother, as quickly as I’m a mum or dad, fortunately ever after as a result of that’s the factor I really need and I used to be actually eager for. And now that I’m in it, , my son’s two and a half, after which I’m anticipating one other child. I do love being a mum or dad. Nevertheless it was not the fortunately ever after that I like, put the stress for it to be. And never as a result of there’s something about it that I’m disenchanted with. It’s actually very a lot what I used to be anticipating. And my son’s superior and so enjoyable. I feel I simply didn’t have the correct expectations. And so I seen that I used to be getting like somewhat bit extra pissed off with it. Like if we went and did one thing on the weekend. And it turned out he had a match on the finish of it or one thing as a result of shock he’s a toddler. And I might be like so disenchanted. And I used to be identical to noticing that these little moments inside me not likely something that I used to be expressing the place I simply felt like, form of deflated about it. And I used to be like, oh, I feel I used to be simply placing an excessive amount of on this. I feel I used to be anticipating an excessive amount of from it. And if I simply change that in me, then I would simply love this extra, as a result of it’s not a fortunately ever after. It’s arduous work. And it’s fantastic. And it’s form of every little thing abruptly. , I don’t really feel like I did that a lot with careers or with getting married. However I feel I did with parenting and all people’s totally different with what they do it with. Perhaps some folks don’t do it in any respect. However identical to switching that in my mind, which I’ve been engaged on now for a couple of months. Like I stated, I’ve been form of like processing it in my very own thoughts speaking about it with shut pals. Now I’m speaking about on a podcast, I can actually inform that I’m form of like having much more enjoyable with parenting as a result of I simply have the correct expectations for it now the place I’m not anticipating it to meet me in all these actually large methods. I’m identical to, loving it for what it’s. And I feel it’s form of a small change, however it feels form of larger, however it actually wasn’t. It didn’t take like plenty of work or plenty of deep remedy or actually something like that. It simply took me realizing that I had the incorrect expectations round this factor. And if I simply took the stress off of that, then I may simply take pleasure in it for what it’s extra and yeah, so in that method I simply really feel much more joyful and light-weight about it. And it’s not prefer it’s solved something or it modified it essentially, however I’m simply having much more pleasure with it.

Elsie:  That’s good. I really like that. Yeah, that that makes good sense. It’s undoubtedly a marathon. And it’s filled with just like the highs and lows could be fairly intense, is sensible. It’s not like the flicks,

Emma:  It’s not like films. Nothing ever is.

Elsie:  Okay, talking of my final one is films. Oh, so I really like films. I really like films greater than nearly something. It’s most likely essentially the most factor that I really like on this world that I’m not making an attempt to do with my profession. Like I all the time like acquire issues if I adore it I attempt to like do it somewhat bit however films I like I’m undeserving.  I identical to I’m a fan. I simply suppose that it’s so wonderful. I imply I really like novels too. Nevertheless it’s like films are so fantastical what I imply? Simply the issues that individuals undergo to make them occur I feel is such like a marvel. Yeah, I’m simply obsessive about it. So anyway, any form of film, I feel I’ve like a fairly good selection like of various films that I really like however let me suppose what’s my most favourite? I feel my most favourite are I feel it’s simply the those like we do on the podcast just like the actually cozy set designs. The place like they’re actually actually detailed. Yeah, the fixation I’ve on just like the Residence Alone home or the Knives Out home or The Sensible Magic home, that’s actual. There’s identical to nothing on this world that’s extra like, even just like the set of The Workplace, , which is like, it’s not essentially lovely, however it’s like, I’m obsessive about it. So I don’t know. I simply suppose that films, I like love. I really like actors. I really like superstar trivia. It’s like one in every of my hobbies. And I really like like, realizing if, , like, if a film got here from a guide, or if, like, if it was simply made out of like, I don’t know, it’s so fascinating. 

Emma:  Yeah, no, I agree. Truthfully, I feel if I’d analyzed it extra after I was 18, I feel eager to be an actor was largely identical to, loving films, and storytelling typically. 

Elsie:  Yeah. Like, I generally am jealous, likeEmma moved to LA, to attempt to do performing. And I, like generally take into consideration, like, what if I went along with her and simply tried to do one thing with films? Like, I feel there’s all the time going to be part of me, that’s like, I’m obsessive about them a lot that I simply wish to like, be some a part of it. So possibly sometime there will probably be like, I don’t know, some form of a method to assist with some film. However yeah, it’s undoubtedly a magical business. That’s very inspiring. 

Emma:  Yeah, and really bizarre. And I additionally am all the time fascinated by like artwork initiatives that take an enormous group. As a result of it’s very totally different from something that I normally do. I normally identical to write my very own guide, or make my very own portray or make somewhat necklace or no matter little passion I’ve, , of creativity. So to see like initiatives that take like, enormous crews and writers and actors, and I’ll identical to so many various folks need to be concerned. It’s form of a miracle that any of them get made in any respect. When you consider it. It’s wild, actually. And it’s only a bizarre, bizarre, fascinating business.

Elsie:  Yeah, it’s so cool. It’s yeah. Ah, okay, so I assume guide report time. 

Emma:  Sure. We’re speaking in regards to the useless romantics. Do you wish to give a synopsis? 

Elsie:  I can say the synopsis. 

Emma:  We’re most likely gonna have spoilers on this so ifyou haven’t learn it but. And I’ll say I feel this isn’t actually a thriller or something, however there are some stuff you most likely wouldn’t wish to know for those who’re going to learn this

Elsie:  Should you’re planning to learn it then it’s time to skip forward to Nova’s joke, however I’ll say I like to recommend this upfront. Like this was like, a extremely good one. It’s like a really enjoyable tremendous quick web page turner. 

Emma:  Yeah, love story, Spooky love story. 

Elsie:  It’s on the spooky aspect. It’s not really spooky. It’s extra like pretend. spooky, however it’s cute spooky. 

Emma:  Yeah, it’s cute spooky.  It’s like if a contemporary romance was like, however let’s make it somewhat Halloweeny. Just a bit bit. 

Elsie:  Yeah, I adore it. Okay, so the synopsis. So The Useless Romantics is a narrative a few ghost author named Florence. She’s ghost writing for a brilliant well-known romance creator. So she’s imagined to be like, prime shelf, like very well-known. And she or he’s written like a number of books. Like she’s on her fourth one, I feel out of like a contract. And so it’s gonna be her final one. So she’s like, going to her new editor to attempt to get an extension and he finally ends up being tremendous scorching. And also you’re like, okay, like, , when the new man enters a romance guide, you’re like,.

Emma:  You’re like, right here we go. Particularly in the event that they don’t like one another at first, you’re like, right here we go. 

Elsie:  Yep, it’s what it’s. So anyway, she goes to go to her household for her dad’s funeral shortly after that. And it seems that the brand new scorching editor is now a ghost who’s visiting her as a result of he’s useless. 

Emma:  And her and her dad, who’s now deceased had this factor the place they might each see ghosts. And he was a funeral director. And she or he doesn’t like this a part of herself, as a result of she noticed ghosts as a baby, and solved a thriller. And everybody handled her like she’s a weirdo due to that. 

Elsie:  Yeah. So she hasn’t gotten again to her hometown to go to her household in 10 years, they’ve solely visited her and I used to be like, okay, what and anyway, so scorching man ghost retains visiting her. And so they’re making an attempt to plan her dad’s funeral and execute the funeral. And her dad’s not a ghost. It’s simply the editor man, Ben. And so they’re like getting fairly cozy. And yeah, Emma and I have been mainly like, we’re studying it on the similar time and we have been on a trip collectively and we have been like, how are they gonna do the ghost intercourse? 

Emma:  I used to be like, I assume there’s gonna be go ghost intercourse. I don’t know if it’s going to be satisfying. What’s going to occur right here? 

Elsie:  Yeah. So it’s like the proper storm since you’re like, these two characters have to be having intercourse quickly. However it’s unimaginable as a result of one is a ghost. And  you contact it and it goes via the physique. 

Emma:  On this world ghost, your hand would go to their physique.

Elsie:  Yeah. So anyway, I don’t know if we should always inform the ending however they work out a method. And it occurs. And I felt that it was like a fairly cute romantic guide and enjoyable. It was very fast. I feel I learn it in like two or three days. And it was joyful. It was enjoyable. It’s not spooky. I feel that for those who have been like somebody who doesn’t even like spooky stuff, you might like use this as your Halloween guide simply to love, yeah, have one and like form of prefer it’s not spooky in any respect. And yeah, like my feedback have been mainly like, I imply, it’s somewhat foolish, however it’s like enjoyable. And it’s meant to be that method.  I assumed it was actually good for love guide. I form of get uninterested in them as a result of they suppose they’re all the identical. It’s like a troublesome class for me. And this one undoubtedly had sufficient issues that made it totally different. However I’ll say that Emma ruined the twist for me. She was like, she predicted it. And she or he like predicted every little thing precisely. After which it form of like ruined it.

Emma:  There’s one factor I didn’t predict. But in addition, I nearly by no means predict endings. I’m really actually dangerous at it. So I really feel like this was one time that I did. And so I didn’t imply to wreck it as a result of normally I’m incorrect. 

Elsie:  It’s okay.  I ought to have really identified that was coming.  Anyway, I’ll give this guide 4 or 5 ghosty emojis, 4 level 5.

Emma:  Yeah,  I might give it like 4 level 5 too. I learn fairly a little bit of romance. And I really feel like it’s a powerful method as a result of it will possibly really feel the identical on a regular basis in some methods. So I actually cherished what this creator did with it, the creativity of it fairly early on the Ben character dies. And so that you’re like, oh, that is taking a flip. And that’s enjoyable, it’s an fascinating alternative. I additionally haven’t actually learn a contemporary romance that felt somewhat spooky, or was making an attempt to delve into some afterlife issues or this or that. And so I assumed that was actually enjoyable and fairly properly executed. I total actually actually favored it, actually loved it. Should you like romance in any respect, I feel you’ll like this. It’s very enjoyable. So my different pals who like romance we’re all the time speaking about like, the place’s it at on the extent of intercourse? As a result of like a lot it’s like very mild.

Elsie:  The spice a meter. 

Emma:  Yeah,the place’s it on the spice a meter. And this one to me is like, center to low. Not tons of spice. 

Elsie:  Let me put it this fashion, I’m allowed to ship my 14 yr previous niece age acceptable books. And I might undoubtedly ship this one. Yeah, this could be positive. Like down there with like, The Fourth Wing. Prefer it this like somewhat little bit of intercourse, however not likely. 

Emma:  Yeah, it’s fairly delicate. So not too spicy. And a few folks want that they don’t some folks don’t like an excessive amount of spice. Some individuals are like, I would like a loopy, spicy scene, one thing I’ve by no means even heard of earlier than or I’m bored. And I get that too. I perceive each views. So this one is extra on the sunshine. So for those who take pleasure in that I like all of it. I’m interested by the entire scale of spiciness.  So yeah, I assumed this was actually enjoyable. Nevertheless it’s very distinctive for a romance. So very well worth the learn for my part.

Elsie:  It’s very charming and cute. And I’m glad that it exists. I’m glad  we learn it. Yeah. And I form of really feel like we have been fortunate to seek out it. 

Emma: I’m nearly 100% {that a} podcast listener despatched this since you all ship us guide suggestions pretty typically. And if I haven’t talked about this earlier than, I’m shopping for just about all of them off of thrift books, they usually’re sitting on my shelf. And a few I like greater than others I have to say, however this one I’m fairly certain it got here from a podcast listener they usually have been proper, as a result of I adore it. 

Elsie:  Yeah, it was cute. Okay, we adore it. All proper, let’s go to Nova’s phase. All proper, Nova, what do you could have for us this week?

Nova:  A joke.  Earlier than that, I simply needed to say thanks for purchasing my cookies. I hope you guys love them. I hope they’re yummy. My favourite is the journey falls. So thanks once more. And properly I simply needed to say, let’s get into some jokes. What’s a pavement favourite form of dessert? 

Elsie:  What’s it? 

Nova:  An Oreo concrete.

Elsie:  Yeah, that’s a superb one. I feel it really works.  Alright, thanks a lot for listening. We hope this episode introduced you some pleasure. We’re so grateful for all of your love and help. And we’ll be again subsequent week with a consolation rewatch of the film, Hook. 

Emma:  Hook hook. The place’s the hook? 

Elsie:  Wonderful.


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